Melissa Benoist Speaks Up About Being a Domestic Violence Survivor on Instagram
Former Glee star Melissa Benoist is speaking out about domestic violence after what she describes as months of domestic abuse. She posted a vulnerable 14-minute video on Instagram video and declared upfront, “I am a survivor of domestic violence, or IPV, intimate partner violence.”
The 31-year-old actress said she met her abuser right after getting out of another relationship. She said soon after they started dating, their new relationship was like a “runaway freight train.”
Benoist doesn’t mention the abuser, but said emotional manipulation began with her ex getting jealous when she interacted with other men. She said her partner at the time even asked her to change her clothing and got upset when she had to do a romantic acting scene.
“Work in general was a touchy subject,” Benoist says in the video. “He didn’t want me ever kissing or even having flirtatious scenes with men, which was very hard for me to avoid, so I began turning down auditions, job offers, test deals, and friendships, because I didn’t want to hurt him.”
Benoist said that his controlling nature eventually turned violent about five months into the relationship.
“I learned what it felt like to be pinned down and slapped repeatedly, punched so hard I felt the wind go out of me, dragged by my hair across pavement, head-butted, pinched until my skin broke, slammed against the wall so hard the drywall broke, choked,” she says.
Benoist added that she finally spoke out, sought help, and broke up with her partner after a phone was thrown at her face, made her in a broken nose and a torn iris. She initially lied to police and nurses at the hospital about how she got her injuries, but she ended up confiding in a friend about the violence.
“The more people I let in, the more I was bolstered,” she says.
At the end of her video, Supergirl star says she hopes telling her story will prevent more stories like this from happening.
“If you are enduring what I went through and you see this, you might be able to find the tiny straw that will break the camel’s back. Or at least, in my begin think about your freedom and which case I am here, I am with you and you can and deserve to live of your own free life.”
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